Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make During Their Child Custody Case


You love your kids. We know that and, chances are, your spouse knows that too, but during divorces, things can get contentious very quickly. When children are involved, they can become a sore subject for both parties involved.

Whether you’re trying to claim custody of your child or you’re trying to maximize the amount of parenting time you’re allowed, it’s extremely important to be on your best behavior in the courtroom as well as in your daily life. Unfortunately, when emotions are high it’s all too easy for parents to make a mistake they regret and that will also hurt their case in court.

Here are the top mistakes parents make during custody proceedings.

Airing Grievances on Social Media

This has been a relatively new addition to divorce “don’t” lists over the past decade or so, but it’s so commonly overlooked. It’s easy to get upset and want to vent on Facebook, Twitter, or even a blog, but this is a terrible mistake. If this gets back to the judge (and if the other party has a good lawyer, it more than likely will), it can seriously damage your chances at custody and affect the amount of parenting time you receive.

If you need to let off some steam, we recommend talking to a therapist or writing your feelings down in a notebook that you can lock away.

Ignoring Temporary Custody Orders

During your divorce, especially custody hearings, decisions will be made that you disagree with. It’s completely fine to disagree with a temporary custody order, but it’s entirely different to willfully disobey it. Ignoring the temporary custody orders by not returning your child on time or leaving the state with your child will do much more harm in the long run than it will do for you in that one extra evening or weekend.

Refusing to Communicate and Co-Parent

When emotions are running high after a custody hearing, it’s extremely important to rein it in and continue to cooperate with the other parent. Contradicting your spouse’s parenting style just to spite them will result in an upset parent, an annoyed judge, and a confused child. We know it’s not easy, but continuing to communicate and co-parent with your spouse will yield positive results when it comes time to decide parenting time and custody.

Withholding Parenting Time

Your divorce is not a game and your children are not pawns. Using them to control the other parent is no way to treat your family. Never withhold parenting time granted by the courts unless you have a very good reason to do so, such as suspected abuse. Yet so many custodial parents do this in order to punish the other parent and it’s very unfair to your children.

If you’d like to learn more about what you can do to help your chances of getting the most parenting time available, download and read our ebook “The Complete Guide to Maximizing Your Parenting Time.”